Do They Know? 🤷🏽‍♀️

Falling in love and finding a compatible partner with whom to have children is determined by so many things, many of which are out of our control. 

It’s not something you can decide and schedule, and the people who view romantic partnership that way — where the partner is a means to an end — don’t end up in happy marriages. 

📸: Orlando, 2022

What you should find most reassuring is that your daughter evidently has a very full life — you mention friends, a career, her own home, varied travel and also lover. You describe someone who is ambitious as well as kind. My friend’s mum once said: “Getting married is the easiest thing a woman can do.” And I am inclined to agree with her. It is easy to sleepwalk into a relationship with no personal standards because of fear that time is running out. 

It is hard to build a life for yourself and invite someone in who you love and respect, who will treat you with the care and kindness you deserve. 

Instead of worrying that she’s not going to end up with someone, be thankful that your daughter hasn’t settled for someone who isn’t right for her. It sounds like she’s a woman who wants as much from her partner and future co-parent as she has sought in every other part of her life. It sounds like you have raised a woman who likes herself. 

That’s reason enough for a good night’s sleep. 🥰

Love, 
Ms. Elista

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