Busy Life? Let’s Check!


📸: Orlando, 2022

When everything around me is moving so fast, I stop and ask, "Is it the world that's busy, or is it my mind?"

There is a famous Buddhist saying that everyone appears as buddhas in the eyes of the Buddha and every one appears as pigs in the eyes of a pig. 
It suggests that the world is experienced according to the state of one's mind. When your mind is filled with negative thoughts, the world appears negative , too. When you feel overwhelmed and busy, remember that you are not powerless. When your mind rests, the world also rests. 
When you have unpleasant feeling, don't grab hold of it and turn it over and over. 
Instead, leave it alone so it can flow. 
The wave of emotion will naturally recede on its own as long as you don't feed by dwelling on it. 
If we know how to be content, we can relax our endless striving and welcome serenity. 
If we know how to be content, we can enjoy the time we have with the person next to us.
If we know how to be content, we can make peace with our past and let go of our baggage. 


Love, 
Ms. Elista 

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